I remember being on holiday in Turkey many years ago and a local Turkish farmer offering my husband four camels and fifteen sheep for me!! I don’t know what was more concerning, the fact that this strange man thought I was only worth the trade of a few smelly animals, or the contemplative pause in my husband’s voice before he answered him with a no! (I thought for a moment …. ‘he’s going to swap me!’)
I don’t know if you’ve ever felt less than;
Less than ordinary, less than average, less than the girl next door… well you were never meant to be a comparison to another version of woman, you can only ever be compared to the blue-print the designer of womanhood drew up when He brought you into existence. He said of you;
She is a woman of;
STRENGTH – strong, able to withstand much
MIGHTY VALOUR – brave & courageous
FULL OF WEALTH – rich in love & kindness, patience & understanding
WISDOM – she knows what to do with what she’s got
Then it goes on to say, the PRICE PAID FOR HER was more than many jewels… in other words, the value of you is extortionate!!
(no amount of cattle or money could ever cover your worth!)
Yet, even though we know what the Bible says and we read what is written in scripture, there is a niggle within us; a disconnect with the words that we read and what we believe, a voice of doubt begins to whisper – that’s not – how I – see me.
We’re going to draw some wisdom today from a woman in the Bible, who’s name we do not know and yet her story is one that demonstrates value and worth so well.
Jesus introduces us to her in a parable called ‘The Lost Coin’ (Luke 15; 8-10)
In it he speaks of a woman who had ten silver coins but one went missing. Though she still had nine, the woman was concerned that her set of coins were incomplete with one missing, and in her efforts to find the one and recover it, she turns on the lamp and begins to sweep out her house.
This woman knew that the treasure she possessed was lacking of one and she was going to have to actively search for that which was missing.
Our low self-esteem is a huge indicator that something (from the above list in Proverbs 31:10) is missing from our lives and you are unable to see yourself properly through the eyes of God if you have lost sight on one or more of the attributes He created you with.
Maybe for you, you can identify with losing something – maybe you would say of yourself ‘I used to have strength, but I just don’t anymore. I used to be able to fight off negativity, I used to be able to prayerfully battle for my family, I was courageous, I was vigorous, I shouldered that pain, I carried that hurt… but right now, in this season, I’m beat, I’m weary, I don’t feel victorious like that anymore, I feel like I’VE LOST MY STRENGTH.
Maybe you’ve LOST YOUR WISDOM; and you feel like ‘I used to know what I was doing, I used to know where to direct my thoughts and how to weigh up my options, but now I’m careless with my mouth, confused in my thinking and seem to have lost the balance of right and wrong.‘
It could be you’ve lost HOPE; lost PEACE; lost your JOY……
Well here’s the good news, anything that has been lost can be found, if you know how to go about looking for it and the woman in our story shows us just that;
FIRSTLY; She turns on a light;
The light extinguishes the darkness, in the light that which could not be seen can now be seen, when the room was lit she could see what was always there, only the darkness had hidden it from her;
NEXT; she picks up her broom and begins to sweep the house, getting rid of clutter that shouldn’t be there, sweeping away the dust and dirt that had built up overtime – when the house was cleared of all that did not belong there, she found her lost coin.
So girls, my question to you is this, how much do you want to find the thing you feel you’ve lost? Are you being intentional? Or have you become complacent? You will never fully know the value of you if you don’t pursue what is missing from your life.
David wrote in Psalm 119: 105 ‘Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light to my path‘.
What he was saying here was; ‘when I’m confused God, I read your word and it helps calm my mind and bring clarity to my thoughts.’
If you’re sincere about finding that attribute you once possessed but don’t feel like you have anymore, if you’re serious about finding the thing you know is missing from your life, then may I encourage you to get into your Bible and read from the word of God; Psalms, Proverbs, James, Peter are all great books, and as you do you will have some ‘light on moments’- some ‘ah-ha!’ revelation, as you begin to see what you could not see before.
But be warned though! In order to find what is lost you will have to first get rid of what shouldn’t be there, the light will reveal some things;
The dust settling in your spirit – its called complacency
The dirt building up in the corners of your house – called negativity
Cobwebs of regret
Debris of remorse
A decaying attitude
The dry-rot of self-pity… and as the light moves around your soul (your house) you’re going to have to deal with, sweep out, the ugly and unwanted things that have become very much a part of you; but as the light gets brighter and the clutter gets less, you will recover your missing treasure and when you do, you will remember who you are and whose you are and will confidently say with your worship ‘MY WORTH is worth more than ANY AMOUNT OF JEWELS’.
When you understand just how valuable you are, you will never allow anyone to lessen your worth again.